Saturday, 24 November 2018

Beautiful Inspiration




At the end of the summer I visited the William Morris Gallery in Walthamstow. Having been a fan of all things William Morris since I was a teenager; loving his philosophy that beauty was a human basic need, it was really special to visit the home where he spent his teenage years. The gallery is lovely. William Morris quotes are hung liberally and throughout there is a beautiful retelling of the story of his life.

Something that I had not known about Morris was that he was a regular public speaker.

When he was nearly 50, Morris, by then a successful businessman, took an extraordinary step: he became a Socialist.  In fact, Morris was one of Britain’s first socialists. For the rest of his life he campaigned to end the class system and bring about social equality. Angered by poor housing, terrible working conditions and environmental pollution, he hoped he would live to see a revolution. Such was his passion for social equality that he spent lots of his week travelling the length and breadth of the country speaking in town centres, market squares and meeting places about the inequalities and injustices of society.

Morris was terrified of public speaking. I don’t think that it was something he ever quite got used to doing or felt comfortable with. But a passion burned within him to address social inequality. And therefore, week after week he stood up in front of crowds of people and shared his convictions and heart. With his words, he hoped to bring change to the world.

One thing that I feel very privileged to witness at the speaker training workshops that I host, is the stories and passions that people hold. It is moving to hear tell of the sparks that ignited compassion, conviction and change within each delegate. Over the day we spend time looking at the stories that each of us carry that have inspired us to spend lives living for things that we hope will change worlds. From businesses that encourage community and connection to charities that challenge injustice, or simply words that changed our perspectives or have opened our eyes to beauty.

Earlier this month I hosted my last workshop of the year and was honoured to hear fabulous, heartfelt, moving stories from each participant. Two of those stories were from incredible women who I don’t think will mind my including them in this blog post!

Katrina Mather was inspired to begin The Body Toolkit, which hosts award winning health retreats in Scotland, due to health challenges that she had dealt with as a teenager and young adult. Katrina’s retreats have been described as ‘life – changing’. Knowing Katrina, the gentle, approachable , warm and intelligent passion that she carries in regard to health and well-being will be intrinsic to the success of her beautiful retreats.

At the same workshop, Zoe Anderson shared of how her family’s open house and extendable dinner table had shaped her profoundly and had been part of the inspiration that led her to work for International Justice Ministry – an incredible organisation that works to free people trapped by slavery worldwide. It was clear from the way in which Zoe spoke that she too, like her family, was a real gatherer of people through the kindness of her demeanour, heart and words.

Every participant carried a story that inspired and moved us all. The day was very special and reminded me of the power that a story holds. The ability to share - vulnerably -something of whom we are with each other makes connections that are deeply memorable, encouraging, inspirational and motivational. This ability is intrinsic to public speaking.

If you, like William Morris are somewhat terrified by the thought of public speaking or maybe you are just finding yourself in the position to need to do it for your work and are not quite sure how, then  I have two workshops that I will be hosting in January and February 2019 in Edinburgh.  The first, on January 16th and the second is on February 2nd. The days will run from 10:00am – 4:30pm and will be hosted in my home. The workshop will focus on the content of a talk. We will look at what it is to speak so that people will listen and we'll learn how to create a story- based narrative that will inspire and connect. Please get in touch if you would like to receive more information about the day. The cost will be £130, which will include all refreshments and resources.

I leave you with feedback that I received from Zoe and Katrina. I thank them both for taking the time to write! I thank them also, along with Michelle, Michael and Lauren, for inspiring me and making me want to be a better person. Something that every public speaker should do.

"I loved Saturday – thank you so much for a really special and helpful day. I left the workshop feeling completely empowered that I had a story, that it was worth sharing and that it would enrich any call to action I ever made. Having such a safe and encouraging space to explore the science of storytelling, how humans hear and therefore how we should speak, and to encounter other passionate individuals was invaluable. It was as if we were gathered around a fire – I left intrigued by the stories of others on the course; convinced by their ‘why’s’ and ready to hear their ‘what’s’. Practically, the take-away cue cards were a wonderful resource, I have already used them twice in three days! Thank you!” – Zoe Anderson (IJM)

“What a wonderful day we had on Saturday, both of us thoroughly enjoyed learning from you. The beautiful ambience and space you created, the inspiring company and serious food for thought (along with delicious real food). We had a really wonderful and thought-provoking time. Thank you so much.” – Katrina Mather (The Body Toolkit)



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Wednesday, 8 August 2018

Speaker Training Workshop, Saturday 15th September 2018, Edinburgh





Even though I have been speaking in public for many years now – representing charities or speaking at conferences or in churches – I still do occasionally get nervous if I am asked to speak in an environment that is somewhat out of my comfort zone! This happened a few weeks ago when I was asked by friends to speak at their wedding. I have never given a wedding talk before and although I felt really honoured to be asked to play such a special part in the wedding day, I was a little nervous as to whether what I would present would be what they had hoped for. 

My brief for the talk was a little challenging  in that I was given the fabulous text from John 10:10 - about life being lived to the full - to speak on and just 7 minutes in which to share my thoughts on the subject! I wasn’t sure that I could do justice to such a text in 25 minutes – let alone 7 – and so I needed to hone my thoughts and consider the key thing that I wanted to say? This took some consideration. Consideration is good...

Did you know that the shorter the talk or presentation that you have been asked to give – often the more amount of time is needed for its creation? Woodrow Wilson (28th President of the USA) once said:

“If I am to speak for 10 minutes, I need a week for preparation; if 15 minutes, three days; if half an hour, two days; if an hour, I am ready now.”

For any talk that you are asked to give you should be prepared to give the time to construct it carefully and thoughtfully. For any presentation, it is imperative that you begin with the end in mind; what key message do you want your listeners to take away? 

I knew that my friends were passionate about hospitality and community. I felt that these themes were also key to the passage and so using them and the word “Gather’, (that I had asked a friend to design into a picture as a wedding present that could hang alongside the newly - wed's dining table), I constructed my talk, about living life to the full, around these ideas. It is impossible, in any length of presentation to explore every angle of a subject, therefore it is always key that you decide clearly what you will include and what you will leave out.

A talk needs to take your listeners on a journey. From the moment that you begin to speak it is as if you take them by the hand and lead them from one place onto another. The more thought you give to that journey and the more carefully you create your talk, the easier it will be for them to follow were you lead.

If you have ever wanted some public speaking training and would like to know how to prepare a talk – long or short – I am hosting a one day speaker training workshop on Saturday 15th September (10:30am – 4:30pm) in Edinburgh.

Throughout the day I will take you on a journey.

 Initially, you will be introduced to some of the key features needed for a presentation that will inspire your listeners to hear what you have to say. We will then open up the fact that authenticity and vulnerability are the key traits of an effective communicator and we will look at what it means in practice to present yourself effectively and honestly in order to engage your audience.  We will spend some time focusing on the personal stories we carry that will be important to hold in focus when we present a talk to others.

We will learn that the word ‘Why’ is actually the starting place when we want to motivate others support and engagement. A good communicator never manipulates, focusing on ‘Why’ helps us to inspire.

The use of story will be a dominant theme throughout the day. We will discover that story is the medium that our brains respond to; we will learn how to tell a good story.

Finally, we will learn how to create a story - based talk, a presentation that will keep an audience engaged from beginning to end.

The workshop will be held in my home. I have found this works really well in providing a relaxed and warm environment. Lunch, homemade cake and good coffee will be provided! You will also receive ‘Cue Cards’ to take away that will aid you when writing your own presentations. The cost of this one- day course is £125. On the day there will be the opportunity to book a further session where you can present a talk of your own and put into practice all that you have learnt and where I can also help you to hone your presentation.  For more information or to book a place please e-mail jenny@jennifercornfield.com

And to Ruth Donaldson – Cameron and Mark Cameron – HUGE congratulations on your marriage! Thank you for asking me to be part of your beautiful day, it was fabulous and so are you!







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Sunday, 8 April 2018

Soul Food Edinburgh

                                                                                    Christ of the Breadlines - Fritz Eichenberg




It was four years ago this Spring that Soul Food set its first table, cooked up a storm and opened the doors of St Paul’s and St George’s Church in Edinburgh on a Saturday evening and invited anyone in the city – in need of a meal – to dinner.

On that first Saturday we cooked Chicken and Chorizo with Hassleback Potatoes and served Eton Mess for dessert. We welcomed 25 guests. The next week, over 40 guests arrived. The week after 60 and from then we have been sharing dinner tables with 80 - 100+ guests every week, many of whom have become Soul Food volunteers.

It is a Soul Food value that the food we serve is truly delicious and healthy! We talk of the menus we offer being just like those we would cook if we were inviting a friend to our homes for dinner. We set tables with cloths and napkins and freshly filtered coffee flows freely throughout the evening. We would like anyone, stranger or friend, who walks through our doors to feel that they are honoured and that they are cared for.

Believing that hospitality is at the very centre of what it is to be a Christian, Soul Food has always been more than just a meal. It is a declaration that the church cares deeply about the fact that people in our city are hungry and it is a statement of intent to engage in any way that we can in this issue of grave injustice.   With an invitation to dinner we wish to offer friendship and solidarity to those who feel themselves pushed to the edges of society and it is a promise that we will walk alongside those who are living with the grim realities of food poverty and inequality.  As Murphy Davis said of Open Door, “Without supper, without love, without table companionship, justice can become a programme that we do to other people.’ Soul Food is not a programme.

Many of those who come along every Saturday night to Soul Food are homeless. Quite a number are rough sleepers or night shelter users. Others are living on friend’s sofas or are housed – temporarily – in a B&B by the council. (In Edinburgh there are over 650 people living in B&B’s. 650 people who have no access to kitchens and opportunity to make themselves a hot meal).

There are many reasons for homelessness, but the reasons that we hear the most regularly are: relationship breakdowns, domestic abuse, welfare sanctions, too few available and affordable housing options, being asked to leave your accommodation, mental health issues, addiction, debt or that you have just come out of prison or hospital.

 It has been said that most of us are just two pay cheques away from becoming homeless.

As I am sure you can imagine, being without a home can be a completely isolating experience. It is also relentlessly hard work. If you would like help with your situation you can find yourself having to tell your story again – and again- and again – to all the various agencies who may be able to offer you support. You can find yourself robbed of your dignity as an overloaded system does not always treat you with respect. You can feel alone in your fears about the future and hope can become the hardest thing to hold onto. You will often be consigned to walking miles every day for food, or appointments or even shelter. It can feel as though nobody cares or sees you as the person you actually are. You are having to be defined by what you don’t have – a home – rather than what you do have; talents, gifts, skills, history.  It’s no wonder that people’s mental health can begin to suffer.

At a Soul Food meal we hope that we can offer some respite and support to those of our guests who are dealing with situations like this day in and day out. Agencies working with those who are homeless or in situations of great anxiety due to poverty regularly come along to Soul Food. We are grateful to CAP, Streetwork, the Samaritans and Streetreads who regularly offer specific and specialist support.

We have no plans for Soul Food to become a large agency engaging with the issues of homelessness, we do not want to become a service provider, rather we just want to live out, through the local church, the call to hospitality that we feel is uniquely intrinsic to our Christian faith. In the act of setting a table and inviting anyone in need of a meal – to dinner – we hope to begin a ripple of resistance that declares a desire to step into the stories of injustice and inequality that our cities and towns hold. Just as God once told Hagar that he was the God that sees, we want to say to the hungry, we see you.

If you read the Gospels you cannot help but notice that Jesus spends a lot of time sat at dining tables in people’s houses. In fact, the table is such a key place to him that he uses it as a metaphor to describe what the Kingdom of Heaven looks like (Matthew 22; Luke 14). The table is also the only piece of furniture that he suggests is needed to be present when we who follow him meet together as church (Mark 14, Luke 22, 1Cor 11:24). It was around a table that Jesus sat with those who often found themselves excluded from society. He intentionally sought the company of the poor, the broken hearted, the persecuted, the disenfranchised, the bereaved, the sick and around a meal he would make clear to them that they were his friends and that they were no longer alone.

If we read the prophets of the Old Testament and look at the words of Jesus we see clearly that God’s heart beats passionately for those who find themselves pushed to the edges of society. Those our towns and cities so often devalue. Throughout the prophets God declares time and again that the way in which we truly worship him is by placing ourselves alongside those dealing with the injustices of poverty. How can we forget that Jesus himself identified completely with them? In his life he experienced the vulnerability of being a homeless infant, refugee child and was an adult with no place to lay his head, reliant on the hospitality of others.

Jesus talked of the Kingdom of God being like a banquet. A free banquet – for everyone – no price to pay. In the stories of the tables where he sat you can hear the echoes of the prophets of old:

                                                     Come everyone who thirsts,
                                                            Come to the waters,
                                                     And you who have no money,
                                                            Come buy and eat!
                                                        Come buy wine and milk
                                                Without money and without price. (Isaiah 55:1-2)

We have been greatly inspired by the story of the great banquet in Luke’s Gospel, where Jesus describes the Kingdom of God being like a banquet to which everyone is invited. A banquet that the host – literally - searches the streets for people to share this incredible meal with. At Soul Food our values have always been one of the warmest hospitality, the kindest of welcomes, and an offer of relationship, commitment and community that extends way beyond a Saturday night. Something of the hospitality that Jesus offers to us all.

We believe that lives can be changed around a table.

Our lives have been changed around a table.

For those of who have been involved with Soul Food it has been one of the greatest privileges of our lives.

Inviting people to supper is truly holy and transformational thing…

Soul Food has grown out of the ministry of St Pauls and St George’s Church and last year we planted a church called Mustard Seed on Easter Road (hosted on Sunday afternoon at St Margaret’s Church thanks to their generous hospitality) that had the particular brief to develop Soul Food. Soul Food, St Margaret’s will open its doors in May this year. It will be a smaller venue than St Paul’s and St George’s but should comfortably be able to host 50 people every Thursday evening. Hopefully too, by the summer there will be a third Soul Food meal operating from another larger venue church in the city centre midweek. We are also in conversation about the possibility of a Soul Food breakfast venue and a Soul Food Sunday lunch (a time that it is really tricky to access a hot meal in the city).

Soul Food is about to become a charity in its own right and we are currently recruiting a steering group to take it forward across Edinburgh initially and then – maybe -  throughout the churches in Scotland. Most positions on the steering group have been filled but we would like to recruit one further person who would be interested in helping us to develop Soul Food. We are especially interested in someone who is experienced in building social enterprise businesses.  We hope, in the near future to have a social enterprise arm to Soul Food that can offer employment and experience to any Soul Food guest or Soul Food volunteer who applies.

We have quite big hopes and dreams for Soul Food. Our biggest is our hope to buy a house from which we could operate and also offer a home to those who have – quite literally – nowhere else to go but the streets or a night shelter. Working alongside other agencies and also the council we would hope to offer accommodation and support that would enable those in need of such a place to find work and homes of their own. The difference that an address, a safe place to stay, food and a friend can make to someone’s life is transformational. But that is a story for another day and another blog post!

Today as I write, I am aware that many of our Soul Food guests have struggled to get a hot meal this week as most of the few places available that that they would normally visit of an evening have closed for the Easter holidays. As we develop Soul Food we hope that this sort of situation does not continue to happen. If you think about the number of churches that we have situated all over the city, wouldn’t it be incredible if we could coordinate together (and alongside other organisations who are addressing issues of food poverty and hunger), to ensure that nobody goes hungry in Edinburgh?

I apologise for this long blog! I am aware that there is so much more that I could say but I have already overrun the length of a normal post! I will write again, but for now could I finish with three requests? Could I invite you to step into the story of food poverty and inequality that exists on the streets of our city centre, lurks in our tenements and occupies the houses on our estates?

Firstly, could you be the right person to join our Soul Food Edinburgh Steering Group? Please do get in touch at jenny@jennifercornfield.com if interested.

Secondly, could you become a ‘Soul Foodie’?! We are looking to begin to find financial support for Soul Food.  Although St Paul’s and St George’s Church and Mustard Seed fund their own meals we would like to begin to offer support for our other new Soul Food venues. We would like to recruit our first member of staff who will manage Soul Food Edinburgh administratively, offer practical support in helping our new venues to establish a Soul Food Meal and will commit to the ongoing training and recruitment of volunteers.  It will also be their responsibility to fundraise for and develop Soul Food in regards to a social enterprise arm and a house that could home those who especially have no recourse to public funds and housing.

A meal at Soul Food costs about £1.50 per person. If you could give £5 a month to Soul Food then that would be 3 meals, £10 would be 6 meals, £20, 13 meals. You get the idea! Again, please contact me if you would like to find out more. Until Soul Food is a registered charity, Mustard Seed will manage all donations.

Thirdly and finally, would you like to volunteer at a Soul Food meal or establish your own Soul Food meal at your church? We are looking for volunteers for Soul Food St Margaret’s and also for the potential breakfast Soul Food and Sunday lunch we hope to begin. We can promise that it will become a highlight of your week!

As I close, let me leave you with the powerful words of the American Activist, Theologian and Writer of the last century, Dorothy Day. The story of the sheep and the goats found in Matthew 25, (probably the ultimate verses in terms of Christian hospitality)   convicted her of the fact that God was present within every person that she met and so whenever we offer hospitality it is as though we serve him:

For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you have me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was ill and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’ Matthew 25:35

These words of Jesus shaped her entire life and they led her to be  instrumental in establishing places of refuge and community for those who were homeless, she wrote:

‘There He was, homeless. Would a church take him in today – feed him, clothe him, offer him a bed? I hope that I ask myself that question on the last day of my life. I once prayed and prayed to God that he never, ever let me forget to ask that question.’ Dorothy Day

May we too, never forget to ask that question and ever be the church that takes Him in.



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